Friday, 12 July 2013

Moving house and other stresses!

Hi all

Hope everyone is enjoying their Summer so far!

I am currently going through the very precarious pursuit of selling my flat and buying a new place to live. It was all going so well until last week when one of the parties in the chain decided to pull out (groan). All of a sudden everything came to a stop and we had to start pretty much all over again. Despite having sat numerous exams, job interviews and performances in public (including singing), I have never felt stress like I have done with this move. The stress is like a twisting sensation in my gut which never goes away (I certainly hope it does once this whole thing is over)! Once you start talking to others, you quickly realise that you are not alone and that most moves come with their own horror stories!

This moving stress got me thinking about what other parts of life can cause similar stresses, so I decided to do a little digging...

In 1967, a couple of American psychologists (Holmes and Rahe) devised a scale for the most stressful events a person can experience in their life, their top ten were:

  1. death of a partner
  2. divorce
  3. separation from partner
  4. imprisonment
  5. death of a close family member
  6. personal illness or injury
  7. marriage
  8. dismissal from work
  9. change of job
  10. retirement

Hard to believe that moving house didn't make it into the top ten (it came in at number 32)! I also find it ironic that retirement scrapped into the top ten, when surely that should be a time of rest and relaxation!

Looking at more recent surveys, moving house has certainly moved up the chart of stressful life events, compared to the study almost 50 years ago. It is now included within the top four, along with divorce, losing your job and dealing with the death of a loved one.

Moving house is most likely the most expensive and life changing financial transaction most of us will ever make. That coupled with the numerous parties involved (purchasers, vendors, lawyers, agents, mortgage advisers etc.) and the organisation required, its no wonder that it is one of the most stressful life events. For control freaks like me, the lack of ability to truly determine the outcome contributes towards the stress experienced. After all with so many parties involved, it only takes one to mess up and the whole transaction can fall apart.

In the meantime, I'll continue to take lots of deep breaths and meditate once in a while.....

So here's hoping all us wannabe movers get their dream house sometime soon!

Till next month